Newsletter- End of year 2021
16 November 2021
We are all in agreement that we have survived a tumultuous and strange period in our human experience. Let us dedicate a moment of quiet and dedication to those who have succumbed to the onslaught of the virus on humanity and to those that are in the wake of suffering the loss of a loved one. May you be in a space where you will be able to celebrate the light your loved ones have brought to your life prior to their demise. May this Festive Season be a true celebration of light.
We, as humans, suffer another pandemic- that of the aftermath of trauma. The world is becoming more aware of the ways in which histories of neglect and abuse influence the individual and the world as a collective. Those that have not enjoyed the privilege of a safe and loving childhood suffer consequences more profound than the consequences of war and other disasters. Millions struggle through depression, anxiety, other mood disorders, attention difficulties and even what used to be believed to be personality disorders because their brains have never acquired the ability to regulate. The structures and networks of the brain that are involved in regulation get set up during infancy through the regulation with which the primary caregiver provides the infant. Children that are not nurtured, kept safe and loved, develop into adults that navigate through their lives with anger, shame, and rage. The child that knows love and feels comforted can take care of his own children and of the planet. There are many studies that indicate not only the effects of these traumatic backgrounds on our emotional health, but also on our physical health. The Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACESs) study is the best-known study in this regard. Adults with an ACE score of 4 or more are at a significantly higher risk for many behavioral, mental, and physical health issues. I will be posting information on aspects of the nature of trauma and the consequences of traumatic backgrounds. I will also provide the highlights of the ACEs study so that individuals can have at least an objective measure to prove why they feel burdened by their backgrounds. These posts will be done on my website and on my Facebook page:
Kindly forward links to the posts to all you know who could benefit from the posts. The good news is that neuroscience has proven the plasticity of the brain and ongoing research is proving how it is possible to set up these crucially important networks in our brains that enable us to live lives in which we are not constantly in survival mode. Life was not intended to be a survival struggle.
“When you love someone, you have to offer that person the best you have. The best thing we can offer another person is our true presence” -Thich Nath Hanh
Stay safe and be blessed